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Wed Jun 06, 2007 6:35 am  |
| babybelle wrote: |
Yes.
Perhaps it's b/c of all the stress women have to cope with.
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Apart from the thicker skin & societal conditioning, pregancy, hormone drop etc, we just have to face the fact that women work a helluva lot harder with far less support from society. Studies still reveal that even in this 'advanced' era, women who work outside the home still do almost 50% more work in the home than their partners, whether this involves house chores, children, whatever. On top of this double load of work is the stress of this & all doctors say stress kills. If it kills, it will certainly age.
It does sound cynical but w/ over half a century's life experience, I've concluded that in the vast majority of cases, men do suck the life out of women, whether it's on an individual basis or cultural. Just look around the world - most females live under conditions that are abusive & close to slavery. The worst of it is that they're brainwashed into thinking this is normal.
And in case we delude ourselves into thinking this occurs only in the third world, just check out a wk of the Dr. Phil show...in most cases women are trying to deal with some lazy, or lying, or ------------ obsessed, or cheating, or cheap, or verbally/emotionally/physically/sexualor substance abusing guy who just 'doesn't get it'. This just doesn't happen with the lower classes either.
Have at least 5 lovely, professional neighbour ladies, every one of whom is now or recently experienced all of the above behaviours from the men in their lives. Unbelievable the abuse that occurred just right next door to me!! And cheating them out of tons of $...goes on and on.
Have come to the conclusion that some of the most dangerous words a woman can hear from a man are 'I love you'. Men who are guilty of the all these behaviours always claim to love the women in their lives...like WHO needs it!?
And yes I'm divorced, but my ex doesn't fit this profile at all...a good man, but we were married very young; we just made a mistake & we realized it & it ended as the happiest divorce my lawyer said he'd ever handled. It was after the divorce & I started experiencing what most men are like....then we wonder why we age faster than men!!??.
Put our hormonal drive aside and instead, open our ears & eyes, the answer is obvious....womens' lives are MUCH more difficult and usually it's because of men, individually, or as a force in how they have orchestrated our religous, cultural and judicial norms.
And to conclude on a positive note, the happiest men I know are those that admit that they'd be nothing without the special woman who is in their lives. They acknowledge that their woman makes them a better human being, more competent, more balanced, richer on the whole. It's rare but it happens. |
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