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Thu Apr 05, 2007 10:29 am  |
| thanks for sharing bkkgirl. i usually on the phone when i walk alone, makes me feel safe...but after reading that and other articles in mags, i try not to |
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Premenstrual acne, combination, dehydrated skin. Using- Retin-a, bb cream, Asian sheet masks, Avene mist, Dr Jart |
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Thu Apr 05, 2007 1:00 pm |
it is usefull!
thanks for sharing! |
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Thu Apr 05, 2007 7:27 pm |
thanks for sharing! i think the tips are rather useful. i will hold my hp on my hand if i m walking alone especially when its dark.
will share this info with my gfs.  |
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Thu Apr 05, 2007 7:31 pm |
| A lot of these tips can be taught to young kids too. |
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Thu Apr 05, 2007 8:13 pm |
| I took jiu-jitsu for a couple years, and I can't say enough good things about it. I was only one of a very few women in the class and having sparred and did ground fighting with men has made me feel much more confidant in defending myself. I am definitely no expert, but I did learn quite a bit. Another tip for you, walk with your car keys in your hands so that one key is sticking out between your middle fingers. If you get attacked you can jab him in the face with this. |
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Thu Apr 05, 2007 10:40 pm |
| These are all great tips. Thanks everyone! |
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Thu Apr 05, 2007 11:53 pm |
Awesome tips!
I definitely we need to be more aware of our surroundings.
The article did not seem to have mentioned this, but don't ever have your headphone in both of your ears if you don't want to look like an easy target. Quite a few stories about people being attacked had involved the victims listening to music on their mp3 player and therefore not noticing their surroundings. |
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Mid-20s Asian female (since I am not mature enough to be called a woman  ). Skin is combination with tendency to dryness around the cheeks and prone to blemishes. Naturally coarse black hair  . Lastly but most importantly, you need something purchased in Australia I will be happy to CP  :. |
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Fri Apr 06, 2007 1:07 am |
This is an excellent thread. I also have some experience and tips to add:
1. Follow your instincts. If a road or path or stairwell suddenly "feels" creepy, then it is best to go another route. Really, if something just does not feel right, then it usually isn't.
== OK, just read the article link and they say the same thing "If your gut suddenly tells you to take a different route to the parking lot one evening, go with it." One night at my uni in Australia .. 10pm noone around.. I was suddenly overwhelmed with terror to walk up the well-lit steps to the car park. Thre was no sound, no shadow, nothing at all to indicate there was a problem.. but I stood at the bottom convinced I should not use them. The school is set in the bush and the steps went up the middle. I chose to walk the extra 100 meters - strangely enough, on a barely lit road - to get to my car as it felt safer. Was there someone there? who knows, but the uni had had several rapes and I was willing to trust my gut to know what was best for me. ==
2. Ditto comment above about headphones NEVER NEVER NEVER walk alone - especially at night - with music stuck in your ears. My Canadian friend here in Japan was attacked at night as she walked down the street. She was lucky someone came and scared him off, but she had bruises from it. Her attacker gave NO indication as he walked toward her.. never even glanced at her as they passed.. but within seconds took her from behind, slamming her into a huge wooden electricity pole.
I myself was also grabbed late one night as I walked down a main street in Tokyo on my way home from a night out with friends. I knew the guy was under the stairs/bus stop (he was having a leak and I was thinking "eww"  ) and it was very dark under those stairs and I did not look at him as I passed... and as I walked past he reached out and grabbed my breast. Well, yes, I had headphones in my ears, so I dont know exactly how loud I was, but I can assure you that this guy was hit with the LOUDEST profanities and aggression that he had ever received. I am a lucky person in that I react extremely aggressively to fright and I swear if this guy had gone for me again I probably would have torn him limb from limb he yelled something back at me (lucky for the music - and for him - I could not hear it) and I walked on.. then after a few steps I remembered my other friend and thought "what the hell are you doing turning your back on him" and I stopped and turned around. Luckily he was walking off (still growling and staring back at me). Funny thing was, even after I was not scared, just completely grossed out that the hand that had until moments earlier been "draining the hose" (so to say) had touched my arm and boob (ok, well t-shirt, but still..). I was disgusted and went straight to the bathroom and washing machine when I got in. My girlfriend (same one who had also been attacked) thought I was nutso.
3. Also ditto that car keys hint. I read that one about 20 years back and have always walked to my car with keys at the ready ... and never drive with any doors unlocked (other than maybe your own.. but at night, event that should be locked). My aunt once had someone try and jump into her car (front passenger seat) -- in broad daylight -- as she was stopped at a traffic light.
4. Aikido is an excellent form of martial art to learn (and the one I really want to do). Requires no strength on your part so good for any age or size person.
5. I was always taught to "walk alert" ... look as if my brain is switched on, not dawdle and daydream... On another occasion walking home at night here in Tokyo, I was followed (at the time I had a bit of a stalker problem, so was always on alert). I had noticed the young man crouched down smoking and as I went past noticed him stand up. As I got a bit down the road I wanted to check if he was following me, so on the pretence of turning my head to look at a temple I took the opportunity to turn my eyes further back and saw him coming. I did not want him to know that I knew he was following me though. It took me a long time to ditch him.. first instead of going home I popped into a little corner store to buy gum, I saw him go past (and he looked in and saw me and ducked).. then I came out and could not see him so started off again... then I glanced back over my shoulder and here he was coming again and when I looked back he stopped dead and looked down and away and lit a cigarette.... by now I was definately freaked and lucky for me the local dry cleaner (who was deaf as a post but just loved me) was closing up for the night so I was able to have an animated conversation with him and stalker-boy slinked off. AFter that I dashed around the corner, double checked stalker boy did not see me.. ran like the wind the 50meters to my building corner.. double checked stalker boy was not on my street behind me and then bolted up into the building and very quietly opened my door and jumped inside.
6. If you get the chance to cause pain to your attacker, follow the rules taught to those who may have to subdue people in their professions. Try and grab the hand and whilst pushing the hand backwards, try and grab two fingers in each of your hands and pull them apart as far as you can (like a super extended Vulcan "V" ) that will cripple ANYONE in a real hurry as it is the most painful thing to experience. If they have you from behind, you can try to pinch or bight the skin of the inner part of the upper arm. that should deflect long enough to try for the hand thing.
Anyway, I am sorry for the really looong rant, but this thread comes at a time when I have been reflecting a lot on this issue and things that have happened to me here in Tokyo. Two weeks ago we had a murder in a city just outside Tokyo of a young Brittish English teacher who had been lured to a young mans apartment to give him English lessons. It has really stirred feelings in me, as it brought home the fact that something like that could have so easily have happened to me or any of my friends when we were first here, but it also affected me as I always felt that one would be able to "sense" if someone was not quite right... yet this girl spent 50 minutes at a coffee shop with him before going to his home ... I dunno, maybe it is age that brings mistrust of people... |
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Fri Apr 06, 2007 1:20 am |
 Your story about the British girl in Japan being killed has sent the chills down my spine for some reason.
Thanks for the excellent tips tiger_tim, especially the hand one. |
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Mid-20s Asian female (since I am not mature enough to be called a woman ). Skin is combination with tendency to dryness around the cheeks and prone to blemishes. Naturally coarse black hair . Lastly but most importantly, you need something purchased in Australia I will be happy to CP :. |
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Fri Apr 06, 2007 2:01 am |
I have friends who are flight attendants and they taught me that hand one. It is how they subdue obnoxious passengers.
Yea, that English teacher death really has been bugging me BIG TIME. I just think it is the "I can relate to that" factor.. when the young British girl who worked here as a hostess was murdered that did not bother me at all as there was no cominality between the victim and me (well, other than both foreign and both women... ) |
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SKIN: combination, reactive to climate changes and extremely fair. "Women complain about premenstrual syndrome, but I think of it as the only time of the month that I can be myself." --Roseanne |
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Fri Apr 06, 2007 12:12 pm |
Another one I read is these scumbags target girls with long hair because it's easy for them to grab. So if you have long hair, try to be more careful. I ain't gonna be cutting my hair though. Heck, no! haha
Not only girls have to be careful. Guys get attacked, too. A guy friend of mine was walking home alone from work late at night around 2 am since he worked only 3 blocks from his apartment. He was attacked by a hispanic guy with a gun. The guy didn't just take his wallet but beat him up until his eyes were swollen shut and he was left lying on the walkway all bloody. Someone found him and took him to the hospital. It took him over a month to be able to see again. He was so traumatized he said he did not go out at night again for a year or so. He learned his lesson not to walk home from work even though it was really close. |
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