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Sun Apr 15, 2007 6:17 pm  |
my bestie is getting marry soon (end of the year) but lately she been acting strangly.
she used to be rather happy-go-lucky sort and always wanted to settle soon. but lately she seems to have alot of uncertainly and worries. she worry about life after marriage, wondering if her husband-to-be is the right man for her etc. thats not all, she is also kinda of negative & easily aggitated.
i wanted to help her but am clueless what i can do to help. any advise would be appreciate. tia. |
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Mon Apr 16, 2007 7:41 am |
| Encourage her to talk, but don't push if she isn't ready. Don't belittle the fiancee, even if she criticizes him first, that can come back to haunt you. Just listen and be there for her. If and when she feels like opening up, you'll be there. The agitation and negativity is her stress manifesting. If she turns the behavior towards you, try not to take it personally. Some apprehension and doubts are normal. It's to what degree is she having them and what brought the feelings on that needs to be determined. If she won't talk to you maybe she might talk to her priest or pastor if she has one or a parent. Good luck and hope she gets it all worked out. |
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Mon Apr 16, 2007 7:48 am |
do you think it would be good if i encourage her to go for counsellings? because the expert might be able to advise her better whereas for me, i can only lend her a listening ear and might not be able to give her any valuable advise etc.
so far, she have yet to vent her stress or anger at anyone other then her SO. but we (myself and another good friend of ours) felt that this shouldn't continue on.
we are not Christian hence we cant seek the advise of a pastor. as for her parents, i think she doesnt wants to worry them. that may explain why she have been bottling up all the stress within herself. |
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Mon Apr 16, 2007 4:36 pm |
| Therapy is an excellant idea. That she is venting at her SO does not bode well for that marriage. She is lucky to have friends that care. |
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Mon Apr 16, 2007 5:41 pm |
we have known each other for 16 over years. i am really worry if the suituation doesnt improve, her case might be worsen and even develop into some form of depression. 
her husband to be is a really nice guy and all the while he been giving in to her. but just like what you mention, venting at her SO does not bode well for the marriage. |
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