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Thu Mar 29, 2007 8:34 pm  |
| He is always on me, about my routine, that I'm gonna ruin my skin, etc, when he has no idea what he is talking about. It is so frustrating. |
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Mabsy
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Thu Mar 29, 2007 8:39 pm |
My other half used to just tell me that I didn't need it (it was a compliment of sorts but I found it annoying) but he soon learned that after I found EDS he simply had no chance of convincing me to buy less...
Perhaps if you tell him that you enjoy skincare he will realise that he should back off a bit? |
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Thu Mar 29, 2007 8:39 pm |
My bf calls me high maintenance due to my skin care obsession. There is nothing wrong in wanting to "maintain" yourself.  |
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34, oily acne-prone skin, Toronto, Canada |
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Thu Mar 29, 2007 8:42 pm |
I tell him that it is something I enjoy, to unwind at the end of the day> i relate it to his tatoosk which I dont understand but dont give a crap about itl
I just dont get why he cares so much |
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Thu Mar 29, 2007 8:44 pm |
I'm the same Mabsy..!! He doesn't really care what I put on my face anymore.. Cause he knows he can't stop me no matter what! I told him that he should appreciate me for trying to look good for him, all he does was giggled. And he sees that I'm looking better by the day, so he just keeps his mouth shut!  |
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Thu Mar 29, 2007 9:43 pm |
| I don't have a husband. My bf never notices I have anything on my face or not. I'm sure if I grew a beard, I could get away with it. I'm trying to take care of my skin totally for myself, not for him, since he couldn't care less. |
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Thu Mar 29, 2007 10:14 pm |
| amylola wrote: |
| He is always on me, about my routine, that I'm gonna ruin my skin, etc, when he has no idea what he is talking about. It is so frustrating. |
Have you told him that it is less expensive than plastic surgery and you'd like to age well? Or you could say that you'd like to look good for him... |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 4:00 am |
| nobody says a word about my routines anymore. Not even the weird machines I use on my face. They have finally come to accept that I will do what I must. |
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50, happy reluma user started 16.6.12 original formula. PMD user. started LouLou's ageless regime. |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 4:42 am |
My hubby used ask why I had so much stuff for my skin and say I didn't need it too; and that I had good skin...I just used to say "exactly! thats' why!!".
Now bless him he takes a vaguely bemused/amused view and calls it my 'habit' LOL!
The day he found me blow drying my lips  (part of the rather unusual Lips2Kiss routine I tried) he just raised an eyebrow but didnt' say anything...then I knew he finally 'got it' and it was best not to say anything!LOL!!! |
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Lucia, VERY fair (ghostly so!)redhead, combination skin prone to dehydration. |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 5:17 am |
Alain and I were talking last night, he has seen my cramped bathroom space with all of my products (I store backups there, as well, on two shelves over the toilet mthat almost hit the ceiling - they're stuffed). He said we will build wall-to-wall bookshelves with a rolling ladder (as in a library) to access all of my gadgets and products. He, of course, doesn't get it and we are now at the stage where he is grudgingly asking me for advice but I tell him "non" as I've tried to help in the past and all he does is take a contrary stand.
It's a running joke now but I told him "C'est mon département" (It's my department), which in Québecois means "I handle that so leave it to me"! I am slowly breaking him down and he will eventually come over to our side.  Amylola, I'd be in a right state, if my SO gave me a really hard time about my skin care! |
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42; medium, warm-toned; large pores prone to congestion; oily; using Karin Herzog exclusively right now!  |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 5:41 am |
All the time  I have ruined my skin (from over zealous extracting/squeezing  ) but I'm looking for that magic combo of ingredients to make it perfect again. |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 7:17 am |
| Up until about a year ago my whole skin care regime consisted of face soap and a bit of make-up. Then I discovered the EDS forum and have sort of went nuts (most recently Lips2Kiss, EpidermxII and Cellex-C). So far he hasn't said much but if he does than maybe I'll just show him the credit card bill, because that should shock him speechless. |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 9:08 am |
No, my boyfriend doesn't really care what I do, thank god.He has commented on all my "creams and lotions' before, but only in joking. I even told him how I feel about makeup, that it's relaxing to me to apply my makeup, that it's like painting to me. And he nodded in agreement. Maybe he was thinking, "crAAAAAAAzy,' but he didn't say it, and that love to me!
Once, I was on my way to his house, which is a 45 minute drive, and I was halfway there and realized I forgot my makeup pouch. I was panicked! I decided to just turnaround and get it. I called him and said I was going to be late and I told him why. "I just can't go a whole weekend without makeup. I just can't do it." And, he didn't make fun of me! he just said I didn't need it anyway. |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 9:45 am |
My husband gives me a hard time about it a lot. Mostly it's about the length of time it takes me to get ready (an hour to an hour & a half - depending on whether I have to feed the dogs, which he never does, or shave my legs, or put on "going out" makeup, etc.). I refuse to do those 5 minute "rush" showers, plus I can't get in the shower without having to redo my hair - even if I manage to keep it relatively dry, which is tough because I'm short, the humidity kills it. If I have to totally rush in the morning, I'm out of sorts the rest of the day. It's not like I'm asking him to wake up the same time I do, or wait around for me to get ready... 
He also gives me grief about the quantity of stuff I have. He just doesn't understand why I can't use the same shampoo/hair products/moisturizer/etc. every day. It doesn't help that I'm always on the search for something better, either, because I end up with a ton of 1/2 used products.
He doesn't gripe about the cost so much these days, because I just bring up his hair transplant & how much he spent to look "younger" (& he's 8 yrs younger than I am!). |
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50, oily & not a lot of wrinkles (yet), melasma and hormonal acne cysts & breakouts |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 10:26 am |
short answer- no, he knows better than to say anything to me about it!
long answer- my husband doesn't really understand a lot of the stuff I do, and lot of the times he doesn't even notice, even when I've just come back with my eye brows freshly waxed!  However, what he does understand is that it's important to me and something I enjoy, so he's very supportive. Sometimes when I'm feeling stressed out he even suggests that I go get a pedicure or some kind of beauty treat. |
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27, sensitive/reactive/acne prone skin, dark brown hair, blue eyes, possibly the palest woman alive... |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 10:40 am |
My SO used to give me a very hard time, well, he still kinda does, just a little bit less. I showed him photos of gorgeous EDS forum members in their 40s. He was pretty impressed and said I better look like that in my 40s.....that's a big shoe for me to fill.....
He does making fun of me when my face smell like a million different herbs...
My SO also send me to manicure, pedicure when I am really down...he is a sweetheart 
Oh..I am not allow to buy much makeup because I rarely wear them...except my MMU foundation. |
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Simple but No Simplier...Approaching late 20s, Normal/Combination Skin, Rarely Breakout now but have some old acne marks, sunspots, & broken caps |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 12:48 pm |
| The bf only gets upset if the CC bill is filled with my skincare purchases, but many times he has crossed over and openly accepted to using my products. I've introduced him to WEN, Joh Masters, Zenbiotic, Dr Hauschka, PSF O2 serum.. and when he heard that there was a type of cloth that could scrub your skin smooth he literally whined for me to buy him his own |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 12:53 pm |
I feel for ya, amylola!
Mine doesn't care what I do, as long as it doesn't cost an arm and a leg. (He's such a cheap-o, so I hear him complain about the cost of everything. But his R/C hobby costs just as much if not more... and he wants to build a real race car, too!) |
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combo - 33y/o routine: Clarisonic;PSF 5% BHA; Nia24 SS, KS Deep tissue repair, KIJ, quench, Detox daily clens; 's: Lips2Kiss; PSF: Pumpkin Peel, Papya cleanser, Acne Mud, R&R toner; Revitalash; |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 4:14 pm |
| zumlya wrote: |
I feel for ya, amylola!
Mine doesn't care what I do, as long as it doesn't cost an arm and a leg. (He's such a cheap-o, so I hear him complain about the cost of everything. But his R/C hobby costs just as much if not more... and he wants to build a real race car, too!) |
mine also the same |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 4:39 pm |
No.
My husband once squealed when he found saw a receipt for a $40 lotion, but I said "Sweety, how much did you spend earlier on your (insert electronics toy here)?"
And then I smile all pretty.
Remind him we have seperate bank accounts for this reason.
And we laugh. |
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25, very fair, dry/sensitive, mild rosacea, otherwise good skin! |
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Fri Mar 30, 2007 5:49 pm |
| My husband doesn't say too much but I feel kinda embrassed about my own obsession with skin care sometimes. So I would do things like paying cash when buy new stuff and hiding my new purchases from him. A bit silly, I know. |
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Sat Mar 31, 2007 1:24 am |
I always get told i have "enough products", i dont need them.
But my skin is so dry i need all my skin care products.
And you use the products up so fast. |
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Live life to the full! |
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Sat Mar 31, 2007 5:19 am |
| usually they do... but i think its more in the sense they think im wasting money for nothing trying new things out (for fun!). damn marketing brainwashing! |
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Sat Mar 31, 2007 8:56 am |
| Most times the guys I'm with don't really get to see the whole range of stuff I use so so far no complains Anyway I don't think it's their business also when I'm using my own money and not their money to buy my skincare stuff! |
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A girl of 25, living in Singapore & still searching for that one line of skincare products that i can continue using for long term for my combi-dry-prone to bumps/spots skin... |
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Sat Mar 31, 2007 9:07 am |
| My husband doesn't breath a word of complaint about my skincare because his interests are much more expensive (guitars, tools, computers)! Every time he eyes a guitar I tell him he can get it as long as I get to spend as much on makeup/skin care... |
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28 Fair skin, brown hair, blue eyes & acne prone combo skin |
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