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Sun Mar 12, 2006 7:00 am  |
I am having the worst hangover ever. Last night my SO and I went to a party hosted by one on his colleauges.
Since his colleuges are mostly 20-30 years older then us I made some incuirements beforehand on what to wear. Which was casual going out attire.
I subsequeantly wore dark jeans and a sparkly top, with a nice wrap around top and high heels.
It was a moment only seen before on film when we entered the living and when the hole party turn to look(and measure us up) at us as we where the last to arrive(not late). I was shock to see that they where all nicely dressed. I wanted to turn around and leave right way (while pictures of my nice dresses hanging in my closet flashed trough my brain, all the things I could have, but did not wear).
I had to wait an hour before I could execuse myself and go to the restroom, afraid I would burst out in tears and not be able to recover.
OMG it was a dresscode disaster  It was suposed to be a casual thing with 10 co-workers and their wifes)
It turned out to be a cocktail/birthday party whit 50 pepole, and women wearing dresses or skirts, most men wearing suits. (the older woman how had given me dresscode advice in a nice long dress  )
It was the most humiliating evening of my life an I have to see these people again and again and again.
So anyways has nothing to do with skincare, but had to get it out of my system... Hoping to recover from it faster  |
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Sun Mar 12, 2006 8:19 am |
No offense, but that was the most humiliating evening of your life? Must be nice...
Who gave you and your SO the bad advice and what was S/HE thinking? |
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Sun Mar 12, 2006 9:08 am |
Maybe once the hangover wears off, you'll see some humor in it???  Do you really care what other people think and besides that...what makes these people the judge and jury?? |
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Sun Mar 12, 2006 9:55 am |
I wouldn't worry about it. They're probably not going to judge you for what you wore - and if they do, then they're just not worth knowing, in my opinion. In fact, they'll probably see the funny side if you can joke about it next time you see them.
This happened to me at Christmas - but in reverse.
I went to my DH's Christmas work's party, wearing a gorgeous, full-on dove grey silk chiffon strapless, full-skirted prom dress. Almost every other woman was wearing trousers and a fairly casual top. I was especially horrified as I didn't know anyone there at all, apart from my hubby.
Once I'd gathered my composure, I just made a big joke about it. Everyone was lovely to me and even very complimentary.
Don't let it faze you. Your outfit sounds gorgeous, I think - definitely the sort of thing I often wear when I go out. I bet you looked great, even if you didn't conform to what everyone else was wearing. Anyway, who wants to be a sheep when it's more fun to stand out from the crowd!  |
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Sun Mar 12, 2006 10:25 am |
| That situation wouldn't have bothered me one bit but I can see how much it upset you. I'm sure you'll be able to look back and laugh about it in no time though. Also, if you were 20-30 yrs younger than most of the people there, you looked better no matter what you wore! |
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Sun Mar 12, 2006 11:48 am |
I can relate, and yes, this too shall pass. My "dresscode disaster" event happened several years ago at a Saturday afternoon cocktail party at my husband's boss's home. I was informed that dress was "business casual" and having been at the boss's mansion before, I dressed in what I thought was appropriate for a Saturday afternoon. We were sorely underdressed as soon as we opened the door and saw the wait staff, walking around with silver platters of jumbo shrimp cocktails and champange, who were dressed much better than us! I was more self-conscious than my husband, but we both just looked at each other, shrugged and made the decision to laugh it off and have a good time.
I was much younger then, and that particular fashion faux pas turned into a good learning experience....that no clothing or outfit can outshine humor and self-confidence.
This may seem like a big deal to you right now, but do yourself a favor and laugh it off. Don't spend one more minute agonizing over this....it ain't worth it. |
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Sun Mar 12, 2006 6:04 pm |
Liss, how about thinking in the reverse and actually feel sorry for the older folks who only WISHED they looked so great in jeans! 
Anyway, I guess the lesson learned is this... when in doubt wear a pant suit with flowy pants and a satin tank. In fact, this inspires me to have such an outfit on hand! |
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36, skin in a "new" phase? Oil/break-out free but now having bouts of sensitivity and surface dehydration. |
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Sun Mar 12, 2006 9:24 pm |
Hello Liss - I wouldn't worry about this incident. The fact that you're so much younger than the other party-goers is mitigating. However, I'd never wear jeans to an evening office party, unless it was an outdoor event. Now you know. Some fashion advisors say it's better to be under-dressed than over-dressed. And like others have said, your youthful style may have actually made you the envy of everyone else! As far as the woman who gave you the advice goes, how can she think a full-length dress is casual? Is she also the one who told you it was going to be a party of 10? A birthday party for 50 is a far cry from that! I'm suspicious and wonder if she or her husband could be office competitors of your SO. This could be an example of willful sabotage. It happens.
I'm almost always over-dressed, however, and have elicited the same kind of reaction you got when you entered the room. I don't care -- I have some beautiful clothes, which often end up having an ice-breaking effect when among strangers -- fashion statements make for good small talk. It's best just to hold your head up and not behave in a self-conscious manner, like Debra said. After a few drinks, no one cares anyway. If they do, **** 'em. |
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Mon Mar 13, 2006 1:01 am |
Thank you all for you good advice and cheering up.
I am on my way to recovery, like you have said it is just to an incident I will laugh about later. (Even if at Saturday, while we where trying to fit in to a new group of people it was quite humiliating. (I could have easily changed outfits with one of the waitresses and looked more dressed up.))
I have no idea what the older woman who gave my advice was thinking (she gave me the full details about her outfit took about 5 minutes. She obivosly changed her mind about what she was wearing and she did not think to tell me, even if she promised to text. She quietly complemented me on my outfit, I politely thanked her and complemented her back. She is accutally the only female co-worker, and in the past I had a bad feeling about her, as she is very intrested in what my SO says and does. I am not to worried, but will keep an eye on her in future.
In future I will also wear somthing more stylish and more adaptable.
Thank you again for your advice. It has truely been a learing experience. Besides me SO is treating me like a princess which helps a lot.I also gave my girlfriends a good laugh when I explained what happened |
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Mon Mar 13, 2006 5:17 am |
| Liss wrote: |
| I have no idea what the older woman who gave my advice was thinking (she gave me the full details about her outfit took about 5 minutes. She obivosly changed her mind about what she was wearing and she did not think to tell me, even if she promised to text. She quietly complemented me on my outfit, I politely thanked her and complemented her back. She is accutally the only female co-worker, and in the past I had a bad feeling about her, as she is very intrested in what my SO says and does. I am not to worried, but will keep an eye on her in future. |
Ah-hah! The culprit. Too bad for her that what goes around, comes around, and she just smattered herself with bad karma. I hope you are there to enjoy HER embarassing moment some day! Please let us know when it comes!  |
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