trouble makers at work-what to do
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free skin care · Wed Apr 19, 2006 5:09 am

We have this supervisor at work on the weekends who is causing all sorts of trouble.She has been running around telling people things they have supposedly said about each which arent true. She has only been at my work place for a couple of months and most of us have been working togethor for a fair while so we know each other well and havent fallen for her lies but we are starting to get really fed up with it all.We just want to get on with our jobs and she's running around stirring the pot.She had one girl in tears the other day because she bailed her up and yelled at her about a mistake she had made and she did this in front of others.I found out the other day that she had told a couple of girls i was bitching about them but even though they knew it wasnt true it makes me so angry that she did that.She also has her best friend working there and the two of them seem to feed of each other and are quite nasty.
A few of us have gone to our head supervisor about this but she hasnt done much.
Anyone got any suggestions how to deal with this? I hate conflict. Sorry for the long post Very Happy

Wed Apr 19, 2006 5:24 am

I had a situation like this with a new lady at work and after putting up with it for a while (thought I'd give her time to settle in and see if things improve) I went to my boss and told them my concerns. Turns out many other people independently did the same - the lady was then told about the problem and was given some warnings but things didn't improve. After a few more warnings and no improvement she no longer works there.

I would suggest that everyone who is upset about this actually go and see the boss, and hopefully that will make her sit up and notice that there is actually a problem. If she is a good boss then she will do something about this - it's her job to manage people and conflict.

On a more direct approach, why not get together with everyone and agree that everyone is going to outright consistently dismiss any gossip that she tries to start. So, if she comes to one of your colleagues and says "X said that Y did blah", just respond "I see. There must have been a miscommunication somewhere because I have known X and Y for years and that would never happen - trust me!".

free skin care · Wed Apr 19, 2006 5:31 am

Thanks mabsy-we've already decided that we're going to take what she says with a grain of salt.We honestly just want her and her friend gone because they're never going to change.People like that dont.The dilemma is that our head super employed her and their husbands are friends and this girl rents a house of our head supervisor.So she has really gotten herself in a really difficult position. I think she is really regretting putting her on and told me she dosent know what to do Sad

Maybe she needs to go to the manager at work Question

free skin care · Wed Apr 19, 2006 8:21 am

Being the queen of insidious, yet often effective, passive-aggression... this recommendation I made to a co-worker (let's call her "Jane") worked like a charm.

Jane heard from many reliable sources that another co-worker (let's call him "Bob"), was repeatedly asserting to various folks that Jane was a "slacker" who wasn't working hard enough, wasn't getting the job done, and wasn't performing well. Seems as though Bob was trying to spread misinformation to gain leverage over Jane in an upcoming job posting. So here's what I told Jane to do, which she did. Jane sat down in Bob's cube one day, keeping her body position very soft and non-threatening, and said, in her most sincere voice, "Bob, I understand that you are concerned about me. I just want to thank you so much. I didn't realize what a warm and kind person you are, caring so much about the well-being of your co-workers. Let me assure you that I'm doing fine, but if I feel overwhelmed, I won't hesitate to ask for your support."

Bob was immediately silenced (after a pit stop to the men's room where he probably spit up a little). Drool

free skin care · Wed Apr 19, 2006 9:16 am

LandB wrote:

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...."Bob, I understand that you are concerned about me. I just want to thank you so much. I didn't realize what a warm and kind person you are, caring so much about the well-being of your co-workers. Let me assure you that I'm doing fine, but if I feel overwhelmed, I won't hesitate to ask for your support."

LOL...classic. An extremely effective technique that I've used a time or two. This immediately shuts 'em up. Yes, these people are incredibly insecure and thrive on creating conflict and publicly demeaning others. This is particularly sad when I see an otherwise talented, intelligent, successful person verbally intimidate someone who doesn't have a lot of confidence to begin with, simply for kicks.

free skin care · Sun Apr 23, 2006 12:47 am

LandB that was original...Catch'em on the defensive...I like it!

I'm not sure if I should be giving advice since I'm in a similar situation yet...it's my boss Sad

It's very bad I need to docuement information and take it to the union...which doesn't want to rock the boat either.

As for you Carol69, have you thought of getting the gang together and setting a time to see the boss? If he/she sees how many people are being affected by this maybe they'll reconsider. That's a good thing to do when things get really bad.

free skin care · Tue Apr 25, 2006 3:37 am

Our supervisor finally bought it to the attention of the manager Very Happy

This girl is getting warned today that she is to stop talking to staff the way she has been, she has to stop going around saying x said this about you etc and that if she starts any more trouble she's out Very Happy

We'd rather not have her there but hey she'll be treading carefully now.

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