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Sat Jun 03, 2006 11:17 am  |
| If not, why I aways think of him after all these years with a smile and some tears at the same time. I don't know exactly where he is now and I don't really want to meet him again. I just want to hold him in my heart. |
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Sat Jun 03, 2006 11:45 am |
Lucky you! I don't think this is true, at least not in my case! I ended up taking my "first love" to court to have to sue him for all the money that he took from me (I won so at least I'm not that bitter)! I don't hold him in my heart, I'm glad the b@stard is gone.
However I do feel this way about my second love. I'll always love him.
My third love can rot in h*ll... and the list goes on..  |
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Sat Jun 03, 2006 11:55 am |
| Oh, he definitely wasn't the one & only true love of mine ! I'm happy he's off and away and don't think about him |
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Sat Jun 03, 2006 12:30 pm |
Hmm, I kinda hope not..  I hope we learn with each new one, what we are truly looking for in a person and that first one is just the first piece to that puzzle...
I think that, that first love is such a special one, full of innocence and all, that some of us are able to hold that in our hearts and memories and look back with fondness... |
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Sat Jun 03, 2006 1:39 pm |
| I think it is true. I met mine some 25 years ago. We were too young, and the love was intense (for me) but short-lived (for him). It took me a good 2-3 years to get over him, but I never could forget him. Some 10 years after the break-up, he called me up, as he had moved to the city where I was. We had an affair (he was married then and still is, but I wasn't), which in some weird way brought me some closure. Then he moved again, because his wife was transferred. We keep in touch, by phone and e-mail. He has a special place in my heart, although I love my husband very much and would never leave him. |
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Mid 40's, normal to oily skin, blackheads, occasional breakouts |
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Sat Jun 03, 2006 3:00 pm |
| Can't say that's the case with me! |
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Sat Jun 03, 2006 5:24 pm |
Miarried mine and divorced him.  |
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Sat Jun 03, 2006 8:22 pm |
| I used to think mine was and then when we broke up it was HARD on me to accept ... I truly believed we were meant to be together. Infact, I even had this dream of watching this clock and ... I still remember this clearly ... (this was after we'd broken up and he was with someone else) ... I said in my dream "who is he meant to be with?" and one hand was on the 10 and one on the 6 and I put this turtle upside down and spun it around the clock ... it went around 4 times and end up facing me (I was sitting at the 6 position) and I was SURE this was a sign that we were meant to get back together in the month of June in 4 years. We'd broken up in October ... with was the 10th month. Oh, I was SOOO sure it was a sign from God himself. So I spent all this wasted time believing in something that never did happen ... but for that time I still held a torch for him. Luckily that's gone now and I'm with a guy who really IS great for me. I feel silly now for wasting so much time obsessing about him. I know what you mean though about finding it hard to get them out of your head. |
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Sat Jun 03, 2006 8:30 pm |
We've all been there Moonstarr... Thinking it's meant to be, and it just won't be.. I so have one of those! I am also , so much better off without him, altho it took a long time to work thru it.. He keeps coming back into my life and I keep letting him.,. Well, I did.. Not anymore.. Somewhere between the last time, and the time before, I got strong.. YEA ME!!!! The biggest problem is, I am so connected to him, I can tell when he is thinking about me, when he wants to contact me, all that stuff.. I'm always ready for it.. He can't understand it...LOL I don't like it.. I wish that would stop! It's been, gosh, 5years now...
As much as I loved him, he was toxic for me... I do believe that there are people that can be in love, but are not good for each other.. That was my case... |
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Sun Jun 04, 2006 7:42 pm |
I think that statement can be true for some. Not for me, my first was definitely not my truest love!
My bf's parents have been together since high school and have only even been with each other and they are still so much in love. It's a wonderful thing to see. |
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Sun Jun 04, 2006 8:23 pm |
| PhoebesMeow wrote: |
Lucky you! I don't think this is true, at least not in my case! I ended up taking my "first love" to court to have to sue him for all the money that he took from me (I won so at least I'm not that bitter)! I don't hold him in my heart, I'm glad the b@stard is gone.
However I do feel this way about my second love. I'll always love him.
My third love can rot in h*ll... and the list goes on.. |
OH that's chaotic and hilarious at the same time!! I've met my share of bad/awful men, luckily I never went through and dated any of them.
My current bf of 3 years and counting, it's scary to even think any person you are with could be "the one", I really think it only works with compromise at BOTH ends, there no such thing as a magical connection.. |
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Mon Jun 05, 2006 8:15 am |
| I believe in this, at least to a certain degree. I think there are all kinds of love. To different degrees at different points in your life. I met, married and then divorced my first true love. Actually I divorced him after he had a 7 month affair on me. I don't think I will ever have another love like him. Not that I will not find true love again, just not "first true love". I think your first is something special, (I don't mean first, well you know) I mean love. He shared feelings with me and me with him that I will never have again, because it was "the first one". I believe that. |
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Mon Jun 05, 2006 8:20 am |
| miranets wrote: |
| there no such thing as a magical connection.. |
I would have to disagree with that.. I don't say the connection would be with your first love, but I believe firmly that everyone has someone in the world, somewhere with whom they could have that magical connection. The trick of course is stumbling across that person (and along comes fate and karma and all that other stuff).
The Japanese call it the "aka ito" or "red thread". (in full "unmei no akai ito" - the red string of fate)... that everyone is connected to someone by an invisible red thread.
Jeez, the thought of husband #1 being at the end of that string is laughable, but I know that #2 was (well still is ). In an "awwww" ( :-& - why doesn't little puke man work?) moment, when we got married our wedding rings were tied together with a red ribbon as a symbol of being each other's Akai Ito. |
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SKIN: combination, reactive to climate changes and extremely fair. "Women complain about premenstrual syndrome, but I think of it as the only time of the month that I can be myself." --Roseanne |
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Mon Jun 05, 2006 11:43 am |
| tiger_tim wrote: |
| when we got married our wedding rings were tied together with a red ribbon as a symbol of being each other's Akai Ito. |
That's so romantic... |
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Mon Jun 05, 2006 7:58 pm |
| Smoothskin wrote: |
| tiger_tim wrote: |
| when we got married our wedding rings were tied together with a red ribbon as a symbol of being each other's Akai Ito. |
That's so romantic... |
yea, I guess it was.. but it was funny watching the minister try to undo the bow. I ended up laughing my way through my wedding. Laughing at the minister, laughing at my flower girl.. then our guests yelled at us (apparently our "you may kiss the bride" was too quick and they missed the photo op). Yes, though in a church it was a very light-hearted affair (only 20 guests, so I guess that kept it very close and personal) |
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SKIN: combination, reactive to climate changes and extremely fair. "Women complain about premenstrual syndrome, but I think of it as the only time of the month that I can be myself." --Roseanne |
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Mon Jun 05, 2006 8:18 pm |
My dad used to say that your first love will never last.
He said that most women would end up marrying someone whom they met at work, not at school or while they were young because it's all about puppy love which doesn't last. And for those who marry their first love or first boyfriend would end up divorce in most cases.
I'm still young and what he said has always been in my head Can someone correct this idea or share what you think about it? |
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Mon Jun 05, 2006 8:33 pm |
| babyfish wrote: |
| If not, why I aways think of him after all these years with a smile and some tears at the same time. I don't know exactly where he is now and I don't really want to meet him again. I just want to hold him in my heart. |
Yup! I'm sure I would have felt this way about my ex-husband if I hadn't met up with him years later, married and then divorced him! Some things are best left just to hold in your heart  |
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Tue Jun 06, 2006 1:12 am |
Actually, Christine, I think your father is absolutely right. I'm almost 40 now and my experiences lead me to the same conclusions.
And, I will also have to agree with Tiger Tim that for every one of us there is this one person that is "tied" to us, like our other half. But, somehow, I'm not sure everyone meets and marries their other half. |
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