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Fri Dec 01, 2006 3:32 pm  |
| I have been told that doctors make lousy bf and husbands, and have been advised against dating one. I'm not sure whether to take this piece of advice seriously. |
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Fri Dec 01, 2006 4:54 pm |
I have, and experienced quite the contrary actually. He was always on call at the hospital and whenever he had time off, was always eager to make up for lost time. I liked that we both had our own lives...it just brings that much more to the relationship. Alas I moved away.  |
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Fri Dec 01, 2006 5:35 pm |
I've been in the medical industry since college. I think it depends on the doc.
Also, is he in private practice? what type of specialty? Is he a surgeon?
I have seen some awfully great marriages out there. The hubbies are nerosurgeons (which I would've placed at the bottom of my list) but those marriages are really inspiring.
I've seen one doc get the receptionist pregnant, rushed marriage, but 15 years later are still happy together with 3 kids.
I've seen another doc get his receptionist pregnant, then lived in the back storeroom as he tried to get a divorce.
(edited to add) oh yeah, I have dated doctors but I knew them well beforehand and didn't take any crap. One is still a very good friend. |
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Fri Dec 01, 2006 5:41 pm |
| I'm a surgeon in residency, and I've dated a doctor I met in residency. I would recommended not taking the advice seriously, sure he worked more than most people, but he was also won of the kindest, most intelligent people I've ever known. It depends on what kind of Dr. he is (I'm not to sure I would date a neurosurgeon, I've been told they have no chance of having a life), and most importantly, what kind of person he is. Many male doctors I know want nothing "long term" to do with females and would definitely make lousy boyfriends [now] because they are currently very career minded people. However, I know of doctors who are very happily married to eachother, and I know of single doctors who would make wonderful boyfriends. They do work more than the average man, but they are rarely average people (which is a good thing in this case). It really depends on the person and if you feel like the relationship is worth the sacrifice of long hours and occasional spontanious seperation. |
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Fri Dec 01, 2006 5:54 pm |
I've never dated a doctor, but my best friend is a Doctor. We were at high school together and I saw her go through med school, internship, and become a GP.
oof. what a tough journey. Long hours, so many exams, so much responsibility. I admire her so much for that. So anyone who's a doctor has to have some great qualities to have achieved such a goal.
And I do think the job can be immensely stressful, and being married to someone very stressed is taxing.
But hey! Whoever said life was going to be easy?!  |
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Fri Dec 01, 2006 6:05 pm |
| I have been told that single, male doctors have no problems in getting dates. Women are constantly throwing themselves at them. Single, female doctors are the ones that suffer in the dating field because guys feel intimidated by women who are smarter than them and who are making more money than them. |
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Fri Dec 01, 2006 6:15 pm |
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| (I'm not to sure I would date a neurosurgeon, I've been told they have no chance of having a life) |
ha ...that's hysterical. Did you see my post? I rank Neuros on the bottom of the list too - long hours and they are (typically) the most arrogant of any specialty I've worked with. ENTs are cool (most of the ones I work with are in pediatrics).
But, yeah, I must say that I am completely in awe of the 2 neurosurgeons that I know. Highly ranked at Stanford Medical Hospital and these guys are completely, totally in love with their wives. One guy is in his 60's with grown children and he talks about his wife like she's a 20 year cover model (she's near his age). |
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Fri Dec 01, 2006 10:14 pm |
That seems like a pretty broad brush to paint a whole segment of society with.... no?
I dated a plastic surgeon back in the 70's - he wasn't near as busy as he is now and I never even considered nor was interested in (procedures) it in those days. 
He was caring charming and very candid about what medicine was all about. Since then I've been very cynical about the medical system and deeply involved in my own health care. I'm still grateful to him for that.
He's been married three times tho which doesn't speak well for his staying power, so I'd agree it definitely depends on the guy. |
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Sat Dec 02, 2006 2:21 pm |
| Oh no, I would never date a doctor, I’ve had the chance a couple of times, but I’m afraid of hospitals and doctors. This might sound stupid but I think that docs might have higher expectations and demands on the women they date + they meet so many women through their work so it would be hard to trust them (I know I’m stupid). |
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Sat Dec 02, 2006 10:40 pm |
| I think it depends on the person and how much you like them and rather you'd like to date one regardless of their demanding schedules. |
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Sun Dec 03, 2006 8:14 am |
Advice like that is absurd! Why would anyone assume that physicians all share some common trait?
The only time "don't date a _____ " is valid is if you fill in the blank with psychotic, rapist, pedophile, junkie  |
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Sun Dec 03, 2006 12:37 pm |
^ i agree
it just depends on the person, and everybody has different personalities and characters. |
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Sun Dec 03, 2006 6:48 pm |
| BCgirl wrote: |
^ i agree
it just depends on the person, and everybody has different personalities and characters. |
True dat! I despise generalizations, personally. Stupid, societally-invented rules to keep people from being themselves...
I guess the only doctor I wouldn't want to date would be Dr. House!  He mutters too much. |
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