Tell him to stop touching my face!!! Or am I just crazy?...
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Mon Nov 13, 2006 9:35 am

Hello! So I'm having this ongoing debate with my boyfriend about whether or not touching your face with your hands is definitely not good for the skin. I keep telling him that he's going to give me pimples but he just laughs and then deliberately rubs his hands all over my face. And he's a guy's guy too-meaning his hand washing and hand cleanliness is truly suspect. One time he even touched my face with his foot! I seriously wanted to smack him, and continue to want to do so everytime he starts grinning and comes at me with his germy hands. He totally does not believe me when I say that he's irritating my already irritated skin since he touches his own face all the time but he has perfect skin. Please help me to convince him that he's an idiot. Or am I just crazy?

free skin care · Mon Nov 13, 2006 9:44 am

I'm sure there's some truth to it. Especially if there's a lot of contact and if his hands dirty. I don't mind my b/f touching/carressing my face by any means...ONLY if his hands are clean Laughing

, but also I wouldn't want him doing it all the time. The face and certain areas of the face are so sensitive, I don't think touching it all that much really is good for it to be honest.

I wouldn't call him an idiot, he's just being a guy. Rolling Eyes

free skin care · Mon Nov 13, 2006 10:13 am

haha, my boyfriend would get his feelings hurt when I'd ask him to stop touching my face...I felt so bad, because he's think we were having a tender moment, and I;d just be thinking "NOT THE CHIN!!! NOT THE CHIN!!"

free skin care · Mon Nov 13, 2006 1:26 pm

Okay . . .what a great post!!! I have taken this whole "Do not touch my face" thing to another level! I always tell my hubby that when we are making IT, to not rub his face against mine because I have very sensitive skin and the little stubble from his face makes my skin all read and itchy. He laughs and thinks I am imagining so now . . .right after we are done with THE DO, I run tot he restroom, look in the mirror in horror and then come out and show him what has happened. He is fianlly starting to believe me but still can't help but rub his face on me at times. Also, I can't stand tho think about his face oils and sweat combining with mine. I know that it totally compulsive but hey . . what can I say??? Funny huh? Bad Grin

So, now when he hug me he notices and teases me about the fact that I keep my face away form his when he come homes to greet me. He is totally understanding but will tease me about it saying, "Oh, sorry to touch my wife's face . . .it is only to look at NOT to touch." And I say, "Thats right Baby . . .there are other things more suited for That." Wink

free skin care · Mon Nov 13, 2006 2:09 pm

Okay, I understand not wanting to hurt someone's feelings. But not with dirty hands. And, with the foot?!!!? He gets a resounding SMACK. Laughing

Ari

Mon Nov 13, 2006 5:08 pm

hahaha... NOT THE CHIN!!! That's hilarious. And I totally feel you with the whole stubble and face turning all red! I guess I'm just going to have to have a gallon of antibacterial hand gel next to the bed. And in the living room... and the car... and the kitchen... Maybe I'll just tie a vial of it around his neck...

free skin care · Mon Nov 13, 2006 6:08 pm

what a funny thread...... Laughing

free skin care · Mon Nov 13, 2006 7:04 pm

Oh, Chellsta, that was so frickin' hilarious! Very Happy

And I have to say that anyone who I suspected did not wash his hands and had suspect hygiene would absolutely NOT be allowed to touch my face, hands, delicate private parts!, etc. Smile

I mean to think this guy goes into a men's restroom (filthy most of them), does his thing, touches anything in there that has been touched by a million other guys, doesn't wash up and walks out of there and puts his hands on MY FACE!!!! OMIGAWD!!! That's too disgusting for words.

free skin care · Mon Nov 13, 2006 8:06 pm

SoniaK1 wrote:

I guess I'm just going to have to have a gallon of antibacterial hand gel next to the bed. And in the living room... and the car... and the kitchen... Maybe I'll just tie a vial of it around his neck...

I think you are 2 funny for the use of the vial around the neck imagery! I can soooo see myself with a good old antibac necklace from now on . . .do they sell those at EDS? Embarassed

free skin care · Mon Nov 13, 2006 8:09 pm

on the same-ish topic, my boyfriend is bewildered by how my face smells. Yes, apparently the products I use all have distinctive smells and so he's constantly commenting about how my face either smells like gummy bears or cat food or his mom or whatever.
and of course while he's sniffing he rubs his beard scruff, which I swear to god is made out of broken glass, all over my chin. rarrr!
btw his skin is perfect and apparently poreless. double rarrr!

free skin care · Tue Nov 14, 2006 7:38 am

i think u r crazy.

the loving feeling is the best skin care for us.

free skin care · Tue Nov 14, 2006 9:46 am

Ha ha, I'm actually in the reverse situation! I love when my boyfriend's face is all soft and smooth after he shaves, so I naturally want to touch it. He always complains and goes on about the oil on my hands, etc. touching his clean face. I get the same reaction if I try to touch his face even within an hour after he's gotten out of the shower. I don't go up to him to purposely rub his face, it's something I did subconsciously if we kiss or are cuddling. To his credit, he does have extremely sensitive skin and tends to breakout easily. I give him a bit of a hard time if I know my hands are clean, I'll say he's just being anal retentive and to relax. I ought to be more understanding considering I used to have the same complex. I used to break out horribly and would cringe from anyone touching my face. I'm much more relaxed about it now and think it's so funny that I'm with someone who has that same complex now! Laughing

Tue Nov 14, 2006 11:41 pm

omg you're all too funny Laughing

See the thing is I just really want him to at least properly wash his hands before touching my face. Then at least I can refrain from jumping off the couch and screaming, or impulsively raising my hand to slap him. I know there must be a correlation between pimples and touching your face with your hands. Let me see....

I know that you heard this advice a million times, but do try to keep your hands away fro your face. For one thing, your hands have a lot of germs and bacteria, mainly because the hands are the most exposed part of the body, the limbs with which you grab and use all manner of not very clean objects. This means that bringing your hands in contact with your face skin is guaranteed to transfer a load of germs and bacteria from the hand to the face.
source: http://www.acneproductsdirect.com/articles/acne-scarring.html

It all starts with a clogged pore. When a pore in your skin gets clogged up with oil, dirt and skin debris. Bacteria happily breeds in that concoction, infecting that pore, leading to acne.

To treat acne, attack the root of problem. The bacteria and the clogged pores.

Do NOT touch your face with your hands

Throughout the day, your hands come in contact with the world around you. Your hands touch surfaces like the phone, the computer keyboards, your bag, the table and basically everything around you. Picking up germs as you go along. Touching your face with your hands before washing them is a big No No. The last thing you want is to introduce more bacteria
to your skin, leading to more pimples.
source: http://www.tkjgames.com/articles/8_Beauty_Tips_To_Help_You_Get_Rid_Of_Acne.php

Simply touching the face can also make acne become worse. It is a difficult habit to overcome — most of us touch our faces repeatedly throughout the day. The problem for acne sufferers is that the hands also contain oils and bacteria which will exacerbate acne symptoms. In fact, all objects that come into contact with the face must be clean. This includes eyeglasses and telephone handsets.
source: http://acne-treatments.article4blog.com/

Most important thing to remember is to keep your hands and fingers away from the face. Picking and squeezing are very bad since you put more dirt and bacteria into the skin if you touch it constantly. Try not touching your face (besides washing and moisturizing) for one month if you can, and you'll see a big difference. (advice from Jillian Wright, facial guru and owner of Glow Skin Spa, NY)
source: http://www.createblog.com/forums/lofiversion/index.php/t130063.html

So basically, bacteria will can cause infection, especially where you have a pimple, which can lead to acne and scarring. That's it, I'm buying a box of latex gloves. Does anyone else feel the need to now disinfect every single thing you could possibly touch, down to each bottle of moisturizer?

free skin care · Wed Nov 15, 2006 12:34 am

You all are just too much!!!

I personally do not like the gristly feel of those sandpaper whiskers, but I like it when he touches my face... Wink

Take care.
Bosoxy.

Tue Oct 14, 2008 11:41 am

Yuck, I don't like anyone touching my face. It's just nasty!

free skin care · Tue Oct 14, 2008 2:49 pm

LOL - thanks for the laughs, Ladies!!!

Maybe we all need to wear those face visors that welders wear when we're around our menfolk...

Either that or a cattle prod... "Back OFF, Bucko!!"

free skin care · Tue Oct 14, 2008 2:54 pm

haha just smack him..........or if he just wont listen to you then you can start an annoying habit of your own......everytime he does it........just pull both of his cheeks and say "now dont you loook just too cute" and grin Laughing

free skin care · Tue Oct 14, 2008 3:09 pm

This is too funny,
When I had a boyfriend a while back (way back), he used to touch my face, literally putting his whole palm on my face! The whole left side! I'd always see his hand approaching in slow motion and I'd be thinking "Nooooo....". I was always afraid of offending him if I unconsciously dodged it.

Now if he put his foot on my face I'd scream. I don't care if they're clean or not but, feet are discusting, especially men's feet, eww! Why would you put that 'thing' on my face when I just put on a layer of expensive cream this morning? lol.

I love men, but sometimes they make me want to bite my tongue!

Could you imagine men being as clean as us though? And complain everytime we touched their faces or did any of what we normally do with them? I'd go crazy, I'm happy they are the way they are!

free skin care · Tue Oct 14, 2008 5:27 pm

Oh Sonia! I think that whatever your feelings are regarding your face being touched, since you have expressed them to dear BF, he should show some love and respect your feelings. Putting his foot on your face??? Just too brutish to even comment on.... Sad

free skin care · Wed Oct 15, 2008 11:34 am

I gotta agree with everyone here. If he is touching my face with his hands, i'll keep quiet about it and perhaps nag or joke that he needs to wash his hands first.

If his FOOT comes anywhere near my face, there will be HELL to pay. I don't think it's funny to put my foot on someone's body parts, it's not just the dirt but I find it insulting.

You got to let him know it's upsetting for you - esp since he seems to be doing it for fun. However, since he's a guy.... lol... i'm not sure if he will listen!!!

Wed Oct 15, 2008 12:36 pm

My DH used to think it was really funny to lick my face... He finally stopped when I could not stop the uncontrollable GAGGING... I swear I almost lost it. How romantic. And if I'm wearing makeup I don't want it smeared (not that it's terribly heavy).

You gotta tell your guy to STOP it... If he's "THE ONE"... he'll stop...

I think I would puke if DH came at with his foot... I'd probably go into defense mode and kick him...

free skin care · Wed Oct 15, 2008 3:46 pm

I think it's sweet when he touches my face, when we're kissing or something.

But the STUBBLE! YEEEOUCH! I hate it. I don't let him kiss me unless he's clean shaven. It rubs my face raw.

Wed Oct 15, 2008 3:49 pm

Actually I think it's sweet and affectionate that he wants to caress your face. I'd give him feedback on how you'd prefer he be demonstrative toward you, tell him you appreciate affection and gently remind him that feet do not double as hands and that its not romantic to be touched by unwashed hands.

free skin care · Thu Oct 16, 2008 7:38 am

Nymue wrote:

Ha ha, I'm actually in the reverse situation! I love when my boyfriend's face is all soft and smooth after he shaves, so I naturally want to touch it. He always complains and goes on about the oil on my hands, etc. touching his clean face. I get the same reaction if I try to touch his face even within an hour after he's gotten out of the shower. I don't go up to him to purposely rub his face, it's something I did subconsciously if we kiss or are cuddling. To his credit, he does have extremely sensitive skin and tends to breakout easily. I give him a bit of a hard time if I know my hands are clean, I'll say he's just being anal retentive and to relax. I ought to be more understanding considering I used to have the same complex. I used to break out horribly and would cringe from anyone touching my face. I'm much more relaxed about it now and think it's so funny that I'm with someone who has that same complex now! Laughing

Mine too. He'll freak out if I touch his face after he's shaved. He'll actually recoil. He's weird about it. I think I've only actually tried it twice; once when I didn't know any better, and once when I just forgot how insane he is. After he's put on after shave he doesn't seem to mind terribly. (He even freaked out once when I tried to wipe shaving cream out of his ear).

He keeps his hands microscopic-ly clean so I don't mind if he touches my face, which is never in a annoying rub his palm on my face way. Maybe he tried that once and I smacked him hard. Laughing

free skin care · Thu Oct 16, 2008 8:56 am

Not the chin Laughing

I hate it when people touch my face! I think it comes from being a kid and having a dimple when I smiled. People would always point it out, especially adults. "Awwww! Do you know you have a dimple?" Of course I bloody did! Don't be so impertinent, man! I hated that question. It was the prelude to hands coming towards me and my face being groped and prodded. Sometimes the hands smelled metallic, like keys or dirty money. Sometimes they had yellow stains on them and smelt of cigarettes. I felt so used! Laughing

Seriously though, if we were in a shop perfect strangers were encouraged to join in and have a fondle.

Face touching: Do Not Want. I didn't even let my boyfriend touch. No, no. No. No.

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