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Sun Jan 21, 2007 10:04 pm  |
| My ex-husband must be the worst guy around. When I divorced him, he made me sell my house to him under market value by $75K. This house was bought by my parents since I was going to college before I married him. Then he tried to sue me for full custody of the kids, which he failed since I'm a very good mother. Then now he's dating a 27 y.o. woman who is unemployed with 3 kids. He made 2 new kids with her, so the woman now has 5 kids. Well 4 + 1 to come. My ex is 54 y.o. by the way. He's 16 years older than me, but he's twice the new woman's age. His new baby with her is only 10 months old, and the other one would be born in a few months I think. Even my older boy thought his dad was nuts to hook up with a girl like this. Throughout the whole custody evaluation which just ended a few months ago, he told the evaluator he was dating anyone when he was definitely dating this girl since he made a baby with her, and last I counted, it took 9 months to make one. |
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Sun Jan 21, 2007 10:44 pm |
What a jerk! You're well away from him, furshur.
I once had BF who (after imbibing a bit too much at a party one night) told me I'd look beautiful in red and he could make that happen with his knife. I moved clear across town 2 days later, changed my phone number and never saw or heard from him again. YIKES!
Ari |
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Sun Jan 21, 2007 10:56 pm |
I made a mistake..."he told the evaluator he was dating anyone." I meant to say he told the evaluator he was NOT dating anyone. He denied it twice.
| Cherisse wrote: |
| My ex-husband must be the worst guy around. When I divorced him, he made me sell my house to him under market value by $75K. This house was bought by my parents since I was going to college before I married him. Then he tried to sue me for full custody of the kids, which he failed since I'm a very good mother. Then now he's dating a 27 y.o. woman who is unemployed with 3 kids. He made 2 new kids with her, so the woman now has 5 kids. Well 4 + 1 to come. My ex is 54 y.o. by the way. He's 16 years older than me, but he's twice the new woman's age. His new baby with her is only 10 months old, and the other one would be born in a few months I think. Even my older boy thought his dad was nuts to hook up with a girl like this. Throughout the whole custody evaluation which just ended a few months ago, he told the evaluator he was dating anyone when he was definitely dating this girl since he made a baby with her, and last I counted, it took 9 months to make one. |
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Sun Jan 21, 2007 10:57 pm |
Oh my lord, I am glad you stayed away from that nutcase. Ok, at least I knew my ex would not try to kill me since he's a vegetarian. Oh boy, you are really smart to move away from the guy. What on earth was he thinking to say that to his own girlfriend?
| Arielle wrote: |
What a jerk! You're well away from him, furshur.
I once had BF who (after imbibing a bit too much at a party one night) told me I'd look beautiful in red and he could make that happen with his knife. I moved clear across town 2 days later, changed my phone number and never saw or heard from him again. YIKES!
Ari |
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Sun Jan 21, 2007 11:29 pm |
| Arielle wrote: |
I once had BF who (after imbibing a bit too much at a party one night) told me I'd look beautiful in red and he could make that happen with his knife. I moved clear across town 2 days later, changed my phone number and never saw or heard from him again. YIKES!
Ari |
Wow, that's not something you'd want to hear ever!
My second boyfriend was a nutcase. I was 15 or so at the time and never even kissed a boy (or gone past that, obviously). Anyways, he used to throw rocks at me (some way of showing affection, huh  ), where I used to have bruises all over my legs. Whenever he tried to kiss me, I'd say no and/or hold my hand over my/his lips. I told him that I wasn't ready, as I wasn't one to give in to do something I wasn't comfortable in doing. Well, one day we were at a nearby playground with a group of my friends and were swinging on the swings. A neighbor who lived up the street came down to play basketball with her little brother and my boyfriend ran over to her and started flirting. They then proceeded to hold hands, and begin walking towards her house, as he turned around and smiled at me. They jumped the fence and disappeared.  .yeah..... Being one that really didn't care, I just shrugged it off and went on with my life. A few weeks later I was playing soccer with some friends as he was walking to the park. As he saw me, he just bolted/ took off. Again, I didn't care so I just laughed and continued with the game.
Then a few years back, I was working as an election judge that escorted people int the booths when we had the presidential election. I was working the area closest to my home, and here comes this girl which my old bf took off with, with a huge belly (I'd guess 7-8 months pregnant). She turned bright red in front of me and just stayed quiet the whole time while I followed my 'judging duties' and welcomed everyone and gave directions. To this day, I don't know if it was his kid, or how the girl is doing, or how the guy is doing. But it was some experience back then for me.
Thank goodness that that's the worst experience I've had  But I'd say, worst boyfriend EVER! (there's much much more little details that could add to this story and this guy being the complete jackass that he was). |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 1:47 am |
| Arielle wrote: |
What a jerk! You're well away from him, furshur.
I once had BF who (after imbibing a bit too much at a party one night) told me I'd look beautiful in red and he could make that happen with his knife. I moved clear across town 2 days later, changed my phone number and never saw or heard from him again. YIKES!
Ari |
That is downright scarey.
I'm glad you're ok. |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 1:50 am |
| Emma2006 wrote: |
| Arielle wrote: |
What a jerk! You're well away from him, furshur.
I once had BF who (after imbibing a bit too much at a party one night) told me I'd look beautiful in red and he could make that happen with his knife. I moved clear across town 2 days later, changed my phone number and never saw or heard from him again. YIKES!
Ari |
That is downright scarey.
I'm glad you're ok. |
Lawd yes that's scary! That's like a line you hear from the bad guy in a slasher movie! |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 3:03 am |
I thought I had a contender for this category but Arielle and Cherise your ex's beat mine hands down!
Wow Arielle yours was really creepy and frightening!
Cherisse it amazes me that even when the evidence of another relationship is irrefutable they still deny it! |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 7:57 am |
| MermaidGirl wrote: |
| Emma2006 wrote: |
| Arielle wrote: |
What a jerk! You're well away from him, furshur.
I once had BF who (after imbibing a bit too much at a party one night) told me I'd look beautiful in red and he could make that happen with his knife. I moved clear across town 2 days later, changed my phone number and never saw or heard from him again. YIKES!
Ari |
That is downright scarey.
I'm glad you're ok. |
Lawd yes that's scary! That's like a line you hear from the bad guy in a slasher movie! |
That line completely freaked me out, too!! Good thing you got far, far away from him...FAST!
Mary |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 8:23 am |
| I've dated some pretty bad ones, but I have to say Arielle and Cherisse you two have had it worse. I feel bad for you Cherisse, because you still need to deal with him. I'm sure once the kids are grown things will be much better. |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 12:28 pm |
I came home from running one night and my husband told me he was having an affair, didn't love me anymore, and wanted a divorce. I know women are in denial sometimes but I swear I did not see it coming. I didn't have a lot of money to spend on a lawyer since I had paid for him to get custody of his son from a previous relationship (and who I took care of 24/7 while ex advanced his career). We were going to have an uncontested divorce but within one week of him leaving me he had introduced his girlfriend to his family and I decided I couldn't deal w/ him. I ended up having to sell all my furniture to pay for the lawyer (well, what was left after ex took a lot of it). I managed to keep my house by mediating that I would get nothing else - but that's a lot, and I'm very grateful.
He and the girl he was so in love with broke up before our divorce was final, but I've heard through the grapevine he is living a happy bachelor's life now. I don't know what became of my stepson, who I raised from the time he was 3. His entire family threw me to the wolves and they all acted like I was the bad person in the situation. 
It still hurts a lot. I left a good job, my homestate and family to be with this man. I had known him for 15 years. Now I trust very few people... |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 1:09 pm |
I dated a real crazy jerk when I was 17. I got pregnant, and he told me I would have to have an abortion, or he would kill me. I thought it was a sick joke, but he responded:"No, I wouldn't kill you, I love you too much: I would have one of my friends do it."
Then I found out that he was cheating on me with 8+ other women, including my best friend.
When I confronted the situation, he called the police and told them I was a crazed stalker who had a gun, and they came and put me in handcuffs, guns drawn, while I was still pregnant with his child.  |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 1:11 pm |
| Bunny7475 wrote: |
I came home from running one night and my husband told me he was having an affair, didn't love me anymore, and wanted a divorce. I know women are in denial sometimes but I swear I did not see it coming. I didn't have a lot of money to spend on a lawyer since I had paid for him to get custody of his son from a previous relationship (and who I took care of 24/7 while ex advanced his career). We were going to have an uncontested divorce but within one week of him leaving me he had introduced his girlfriend to his family and I decided I couldn't deal w/ him. I ended up having to sell all my furniture to pay for the lawyer (well, what was left after ex took a lot of it). I managed to keep my house by mediating that I would get nothing else - but that's a lot, and I'm very grateful.
He and the girl he was so in love with broke up before our divorce was final, but I've heard through the grapevine he is living a happy bachelor's life now. I don't know what became of my stepson, who I raised from the time he was 3. His entire family threw me to the wolves and they all acted like I was the bad person in the situation.
It still hurts a lot. I left a good job, my homestate and family to be with this man. I had known him for 15 years. Now I trust very few people... |
Bunny, very simply put ... that man deserves to be struck by lightning! TWICE! |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 1:12 pm |
| mper1327 wrote: |
I dated a real crazy jerk when I was 17. I got pregnant, and he told me I would have to have an abortion, or he would kill me. I thought it was a sick joke, but he responded:"No, I wouldn't kill you, I love you too much: I would have one of my friends do it."
Then I found out that he was cheating on me with 8+ other women, including my best friend.
When I confronted the situation, he called the police and told them I was a crazed stalker who had a gun, and they came and put me in handcuffs, guns drawn, while I was still pregnant with his child. |
And THAT man deserves to be run down by a freight train! TWICE! (If there's anything left of him after the first time!) |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 1:14 pm |
| MermaidGirl wrote: |
| Bunny7475 wrote: |
I came home from running one night and my husband told me he was having an affair, didn't love me anymore, and wanted a divorce. I know women are in denial sometimes but I swear I did not see it coming. I didn't have a lot of money to spend on a lawyer since I had paid for him to get custody of his son from a previous relationship (and who I took care of 24/7 while ex advanced his career). We were going to have an uncontested divorce but within one week of him leaving me he had introduced his girlfriend to his family and I decided I couldn't deal w/ him. I ended up having to sell all my furniture to pay for the lawyer (well, what was left after ex took a lot of it). I managed to keep my house by mediating that I would get nothing else - but that's a lot, and I'm very grateful.
He and the girl he was so in love with broke up before our divorce was final, but I've heard through the grapevine he is living a happy bachelor's life now. I don't know what became of my stepson, who I raised from the time he was 3. His entire family threw me to the wolves and they all acted like I was the bad person in the situation.
It still hurts a lot. I left a good job, my homestate and family to be with this man. I had known him for 15 years. Now I trust very few people... |
Bunny, very simply put ... that man deserves to be struck by lightning! TWICE! |
Right smack dab on his man bits! |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 1:44 pm |
| Very well put Vonstella |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 1:56 pm |
Ive dated a lot of jerks, I broke it off with one guy because he was rude to his mother (I knew if I stayed with him he would treat me like that one day), when I told him why I was dumping him he just looked at me with this blank stare...er, ok. He didnt get it.
Then there were all the guys who regardless of age could not seem to get their lives together, job hopping, car repossessions, extreme debt, etc. Homie dont play that.
My ex-husband takes the cake, he was sleeping around, doing major drugs behind my back, had an oddly close relationship with his younger sister (ew!), he was so gross. Divorcing him was the best thing that ever happened to me. I know people that still see him, needless to say he is still a total loser.
I now have a fat little baby and a great hubby, thankfully things got better in the love department for me. |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 3:47 pm |
I had my worst boyfried when I was 17. I wanted to break it off, but every time I tried, he would start to cry and threaten to kill himself and being as inexperienced as I was, I would stay. This went on for months. One night I just couldn't take it anymore and actually left after I broke up with him. He was in tears and telling me what how he was going to kill himself. So on my way home, I stopped at a pay phone, called his best friend and sent him over to look after him.
I'm happy to report that he is still alive.  |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 4:11 pm |
| tam wrote: |
I had my worst boyfried when I was 17. I wanted to break it off, but every time I tried, he would start to cry and threaten to kill himself and being as inexperienced as I was, I would stay. This went on for months. One night I just couldn't take it anymore and actually left after I broke up with him. He was in tears and telling me what how he was going to kill himself. So on my way home, I stopped at a pay phone, called his best friend and sent him over to look after him.
I'm happy to report that he is still alive. |
My ex bf did that to me when i was 17 too!! I hate guys who cry wolf. I finally broke up with him months later when i left the country to study and didn't leave a forwarding number.  |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 4:13 pm |
Man, O man O man!!
Reading your stories has humbled me. All the annoyances I have had, have been petty ones. For which I am truly grateful.
Brave stories, brave women.
Where's the ' I salute you' icon when you need it?! |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 9:01 pm |
| dollbird wrote: |
| tam wrote: |
I had my worst boyfried when I was 17. I wanted to break it off, but every time I tried, he would start to cry and threaten to kill himself and being as inexperienced as I was, I would stay. This went on for months. One night I just couldn't take it anymore and actually left after I broke up with him. He was in tears and telling me what how he was going to kill himself. So on my way home, I stopped at a pay phone, called his best friend and sent him over to look after him.
I'm happy to report that he is still alive. |
My ex bf did that to me when i was 17 too!! I hate guys who cry wolf. I finally broke up with him months later when i left the country to study and didn't leave a forwarding number. |
I like that -- leaving no forwarding address.
The one thing that I learned and never forgot because of that relationship was to never let myself be manipulated like that again. There's always a silver lining.  |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 9:12 pm |
| OMG! There was this one guy when I was in college, I never dated him nor did I want to but he was very clingy. He was new to the country and every time, I told him I wasn't interested he'd cry and tell me how alone he was. According to him, he cared for me and if I left him alone he'd hurt himself. It was terrible.I was naive as well and I believed him. Thank God nothing he was only bluffing. |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 9:25 pm |
| Well, I have to say that my ex never tried to kill me, so he must not be that evil. He's very selfish and inconsiderate. True! He was always playing chess on the computer even all the way to 5 am, and would not lift a finger to do anything around the house. One day I started to wake up and wondered why I was in a marriage to be his maid or what. I thought a marriage was like a partnership deal. He was also inconsiderate in that he would just take off around 10 pm and not return till 6 am, and wouldn't tell me ever where he went. My mom was aghast when she was visiting one day and asked me where my husband went. I told her I didn't know he left, but it was normal. I could go on and on about this guy, but I think you would all be quite bored. I think men are selfish by nature, and it would take a strong woman to teach them to be better helpers. |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 10:06 pm |
| Cherisse wrote: |
| I think men are selfish by nature, and it would take a strong woman to teach them to be better helpers. |
This is very true. But there is a formula. First you take a man who has love and respect for his mother and has been relatively well-trained by her. Then, practice persistance and consistency in what you expect from him. Give him specific chores that are always his job. My DH and his 2 brothers are all very strong self-assured men with no concept of "women's work" vs "men's work". None of that macho bull, you know? They all three know how to do laundry, vacuum, wash dishes, etc. but don't like it any more than their wives do.
My DH, for instance, always does the dinner dishes and clearing up. I do the cooking. If I'm very busy (since I work from home at all hours), sometimes he'll even volunteer to do the laundry if I take the time to sort the clothes for him. He loads the washing machine, then the dryer, then folds & hangs the clothes and puts them away. Ironing, dusting & polishing furniture and mopping floors are my job but his job is vacuuming and cleaning ceiling fixtures ( or anything that's too high for me to reach). I clean 1 bathroom, he cleans the other. He has come to understand that if we both do the chores we have time to go out and do things together. And, that way, neither of us is too tired to "play".
Ari |
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Mon Jan 22, 2007 10:13 pm |
Your hubby sounds perfect! You got a really good man, Ari. Most women just wish they could have a good one like yours! Congrats! My sons are going to make good husbands one day. I'm not teaching them to be selfish.
| Arielle wrote: |
| Cherisse wrote: |
| I think men are selfish by nature, and it would take a strong woman to teach them to be better helpers. |
This is very true. But there is a formula. First you take a man who has love and respect for his mother and has been relatively well-trained by her. Then, practice persistance and consistency in what you expect from him. Give him specific chores that are always his job. My DH and his 2 brothers are all very strong self-assured men with no concept of "women's work" vs "men's work". None of that macho bull, you know? They all three know how to do laundry, vacuum, wash dishes, etc. but don't like it any more than their wives do.
My DH, for instance, always does the dinner dishes and clearing up. I do the cooking. If I'm very busy (since I work from home at all hours), sometimes he'll even volunteer to do the laundry if I take the time to sort the clothes for him. He loads the washing machine, then the dryer, then folds & hangs the clothes and puts them away. Ironing, dusting & polishing furniture and mopping floors are my job but his job is vacuuming and cleaning ceiling fixtures ( or anything that's too high for me to reach). I clean 1 bathroom, he cleans the other. He has come to understand that if we both do the chores we have time to go out and do things together. And, that way, neither of us is too tired to "play".
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